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		<title>Obedient Kids = Great Parents? By Ann Josephson, JAG Gymnastics</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[In a recent article called “When did obedience become the epitome of good parenting?” author Annalisa Barbieri asks this interesting question. And it really is an excellent question.  Why is it that the parent who has a compliant child considered a “good” parent, but the parent who has a child who questions authority, challenges rule [...]]]></description>
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<div>In a recent article called <a rel="nofollow">“When did obedience become the epitome of good parenting?”</a> author Annalisa Barbieri asks this interesting question.</div>
<div>And it really is an excellent question.  Why is it that the parent who has a compliant child considered a “good” parent, but the parent who has a child who questions authority, challenges rule or expresses herself freely considered a “bad” parent?</div>
<div>Think about it, a first blush one might think that the docile child is the product of good parenting.  Yet, if the goal of parenting is to raise an adult who is ready to make a contribution to society, do we really think that submissive and yielding is preferable to feisty and curious?   As Alfie Kohn, author of ‘Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason’ says, “When I ask parents, at the beginning of my lectures, what their long term goals are for the children, I hear words such as ethical, compassionate independent happy and so on. No-one ever says mindlessly compliant.”</div>
<div>Barbieri concludes, “There seems to be a real fashion for taming children and the reason seems to be fear: it’s not that most people are worried about one incident of wall-scribbling, but that they seem to fear what this behaviour will turn into if it’s not kept in check, as if all children are just waiting to grow up into sociopaths.”</div>
<div>Of course we all want to raise kids who have good character, manners and behave appropriately given the situation.  But I think part of the problem is that we define a child’s willingness to obey as a large measure of her character.  Character is a multi-dimensional concept that does include the idea of respect (which includes among other ideas the concept of obedience) but character also includes the values of fairness, integrity and honesty.  Quite often kids who are lower on obedience are very high in these areas.</div>
<div>For instance, the child who protests when a parent abruptly decides to change the rules (last week you let me have a snack after gymnastics, this week you say no and are mad at me for asking) have a deep sense of justice.  Or, when a parent asks a child to comply with a request, and the child says no may be a child who has great integrity and honesty.</div>
<div>So why all the fuss over raising obedient children?  Well first of all, they are way easier to parent.  They seldom embarrass us at the supermarket and we are never called into school to meet about their behavior.  Additionally, they do make us look good, like we have a handle on this whole parenting thing.  Let’s face it, obedient children make us feel calm, successful and, frankly, don’t take as much of our time to parent.</div>
<div>Questioning children, on the other hand, have a penchant for melting down in public, probing every last rule, and challenging the validity of everything you say.  They are the ones who cause you to notice the raised eyebrows of your fellow shoppers and, quite often, you will get to know the school administration quite well as you will be summoned in from time to time.  You will question whether or not you are a good parent routinely.  These non-compliant kids are exhausting and challenging.   In theory we all love the kid with the “Question Authority” T-shirt until she lands in our family, classroom or team…then we are not so sure.</div>
<div>In a perfect world, parents would stop judging each other and start supporting each other and all children, not just their own.  But that is the topic of a series of other blogs.  In the meantime, just reconsider withholding judgment on the efficacy of another person’s parenting simply because their child is not routinely obedient.</div>
<div>And, for those of you who are raising a less-than-obedient child, please feel free to use one of my favorite parenting mantras, “She may be a difficult child, but she is going to be an incredible adult.”</div>
<div>I guess I am sensitive to this topic because, quite frankly, I don’t have particularly obedient children.  My four daughters, though all quite different in their personalities, all consistently value standing up for their beliefs and ideas (integrity) over complying with authority (obedience).  They are passionate and creative kids who love a good debate, challenge every rule and regulation placed in front of them and frankly are not terribly impressed by or concerned with authority figures who demand respect for the sake of demanding respect.  That said, they are trustworthy kids who respect other’s rights and understand and adhere to the concept of social contracts.  But obedient?   Not so much.</div>
<div>Yes, I was that mom in grocery store engaged in a “lively debate” (okay, fine, screaming match) over Lucky Charms.  Also, I was the mom who had the kids who insisted on wearing certain clothing, even to formal events (one daughter insisted on wearing a Dorothy dress for two solid years, another only Hanna Anderson stripped leggings and dresses).  My children’s two favorite words were “no” and “why” often spoken at a high decibel.  And phrases like “a mind of her own,” “loves to challenge adult’s ideas,” and “won’t take no for an answer” peppered their narrative reports from school.</div>
<div>As a result, they have not been easy to raise.  Yet, as I see them venturing out into the world on their own, I see young women who are able to advocate for themselves and others, who are confident that their voice can and will be heard and who understand the difference between blind compliance and hearing the needs and desires of another and being willing to comply because they respect the need or desire but not because they blindly yield to all who hold power.</div>
<div>Yes, raising kids who are not consistently obedient is exhausting and can be embarrassing, but so what?  Kids are not dogs.  They don’t need to be trained, but rather they need to be taught.   They don’t need to be quiet and submissive, but rather they need to be questioning and self-assured.</div>
<div>As a teacher once commented to me about one of my daughters, “I can’t promise you she won’t do drugs or have sex.  But I can promise you that if she does it will be because it was her idea not because someone pushed her into doing it.”</div>
<div>Isn’t that a worthy parenting goal and a good definition of “good parenting”: raising self-assured young adults who are not afraid to stand up for what they believe?  I think so.</div>
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		<description><![CDATA[Our 2012 summer swim registration starts Monday, April 2nd at 9am and is on-line only for the first day.  Starting Tuesday, April 3rd and through-out the summer, we will accept swim registration by fax, on-line, and in-person with one of our friendly customer service representatives.  The 2012 swim schedule and swim information will be on-line [...]]]></description>
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		<title>OUR CHAMPIONS! &#8211; CUPID&#8217;S CLASSIC MEET</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Cupid&#8217;s Classic Tumbling Meet was opened to all boys and girls enrolled in a School-Age gymnasts or tumbling classes.  The students competed on trampoline, spring floor and showed off their hardest skills on the Tumbl Trak. Each level competed for a 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place award.  All the competitors received a participation ribbon [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The Cupid&#8217;s Classic Tumbling Meet was opened to all boys and girls enrolled in a School-Age gymnasts or tumbling classes.  The students competed on trampoline, spring floor and showed off their hardest skills on the Tumbl Trak. Each level competed for a 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place award.  All the competitors received a participation ribbon and the top three students from each level won awesome trophies. What a proud moment for all parents and family in attendance. The friendly competition was an awesome way to encourage hard-work and sportsmanship. Congrats to all!</p>

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<h1 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #cc3399;"><strong>THE WINNERS FOR THE CUPID&#8217;S CLASSIC MEETS</strong></span></h1>
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<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #cc3399;">SAT, FEB. 11th and SUN, FEB 12th CUPID&#8217;S CLASSIC MEETS </span></h2>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">INTERMEDIATE MEET:</span>   1st place: Clarissa Iwachiw, 2nd place: Alina Arzumanian, &amp; 3rd place: Casey Meldgin. </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">ADVANCED  MEET:</span>   1st place: Natalie Thompson, 2nd place: Anika Berg, &amp; 3rd place: Mackenzie Williams. </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">ADVANCED MEET:</span>   1st place: Brenna Thompson, 2nd place: Morgan Markulin, &amp; 3rd place: Sara Finke. </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">ELITE MEET:</span>   1st place: Teagan McCormack. </span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">BEGINNER MEET :</span>   1st place: Audrey Girolimon, 2nd place: Madison Mercer, &amp; 3rd place: Stephanie <span style="color: #993399;">Rothgeb. </span></span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #990099;"><span style="color: #ff3399;">ADVANCED BEGINNER MEET:</span>  1st place: Samantha Smolen, 2nd place: Evi Allerding, &amp; 3rd place: Madison Delpino.</span></h3>
<h2 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #cc3399;">SUN, FEB 19th CUPID&#8217;S CLASSIC MEETS</span></h2>
<h3><span style="color: #ff3399;"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>INTERMEDIATE MEET</strong></span>:</span>  <span style="color: #993399;">1st place: Hannah Solon, 2nd place: Anna bender, &amp; 3rd place: Lily Lane</span></h3>
<h3><span style="color: #ff3399;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">BEGINNER MEET</span>:  </strong></span><span style="color: #993399;">1st place: Zaraya Lathan, 2nd place: Isabella Perez, &amp; 3rd place: Piper Geiger</span><br />
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ADVANCED BEGINNER MEET:</strong></span> <span style="color: #993399;"> 1st place: Hailey Lyda, 2nd place: Emily Meseberg, &amp; 3rd place: Katrina Taylor</span></h3>
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		<title>Myths and Truths of Progress by Ann Josephson of JAG Gymnastics</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[“My child wants to quit because she is not making any progress.”  These words begin so many of the meetings that I have with parents who are conflicted about having their child continue in gymnastics.  Quite often, the parent will say that the child likes gymnastics, is happy when she is at practice and is [...]]]></description>
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<div>“My child wants to quit because she is not making any progress.”  These words begin so many of the meetings that I have with parents who are conflicted about having their child continue in gymnastics.  Quite often, the parent will say that the child likes gymnastics, is happy when she is at practice and is constantly flipping around at home, but that quitting is being discussed because nobody (because let’s face it, it is often the parents as well) sees “progress.”</div>
<div>Occasionally, the parents and the kids are absolutely correct: little to no progress is being made.  Usually the result of spotty attendance, lack of effort during practice or returning from injury or extended vacation, in these cases progress is slow at best.  Yet more often than not, after some discussion and gentle reminders about how far the athlete has come, most leave my office realizing that their child (or they themselves) are, in fact, making progress.</div>
<div>Am I magic?  No.  I just think that many kids (and adults) don’t understand much about what progress looks like or how to measure it.</div>
<div><strong>Myth: Progress in skill development comes evenly and easily.  So long as he shows up at practice, everyday we get a little bit better, a little stronger and a little closer to our goals</strong>.</div>
<div><strong>Truth: While attendance and engagement in practice certainly is the key to progress, progress comes in fits and starts and is often followed by plateaus that vary in length.</strong>  Of course your child will often learn a lot quickly, especially in the beginning when there is great deal to learn.  But as he gets more expert, it becomes harder and harder to see huge improvement and to, in fact, improve.  Preparing your child for the reality of the process of progression will help him understand that it is perfectly normal to take a long time to see improvement.</div>
<div>In gymnastics there are certain skills and certain levels where many athletes will stall for a bit.  For instance, learning a kip is a troublesome exercise for many gymnasts.  Yes, it is not uncommon for it to take 1,000 tries to learn a kip.  1,000.  It’s a bit like watching paint dry.</div>
<div><strong>Myth: The best way to gauge our progress is to measure herself against others.</strong></div>
<div><strong>Truth: While measuring herself against others is one way to measure progress, it is often not the best or most accurate way to tell if she is improving in her sport. </strong>  The best way to measure progress is for the athlete to exceed her own goals rather than surpassing the performance of another.   Is her time faster than it was six months ago?  Can she now stick 5 out of 5 beam routines when six months ago she was struggling to hit 2 out of 5?  Then she is making progress.</div>
<div>Of course it is frustrating when others progress faster or with greater ease than we do.   I get it for I am an insanely competitive person.  Yet, an athlete or student constantly looking to compare herself against others fails to see her own progress and will often feel defeated despite her achievements.  Yes, it is true, there is most likely someone better than you in pretty much any athletic pursuit or other pursuit in life.  It’s okay.  It’s true for me too.   Believe me, I am not wild about this fact either.</div>
<div><strong>Myth: Kids who progress the fastest in the beginning are more talented than the children who take longer to learn athletic skills and, therefore, are most likely to succeed at the highest level of the sport.  And, conversely, kids who struggle learning the fundamentals are not likely to be successful.</strong></div>
<div><strong>Truth:  Yes, some kids who show an early demonstration of talent do rise to the top, but not all.  Likewise, not all kids who make it to the top show early signs of promise.</strong>  The kids who are more athletically inclined off the bat might be so for a number of reasons that have little to do with talent.  They could have older siblings who plays the sport and, as a result, are familiar with the rules and basics.   They might have grown earlier and therefore are stronger and faster than their peers.  Or the early part of the sport suits their given skills set and thus are able to use those skills to their advantage.</div>
<div>This is an important concept, so let me give you an example.  In gymnastics, the beginning levels of competition have compulsory routines.  There are no choices of skills or style, each child performs the same routine.  Well, if the routine happens to require a skill that is extremely difficult for one gymnast (perhaps because she is not naturally flexible, for instance) and that is quite simple for another gymnast (she is naturally flexible), the Gumby-like gymnast will be more “successful”.  However, as the gymnasts move through the system and into optional levels, the less flexible child will be able to use her strengths (perhaps she has very strong legs and tumbles well) and can work around her weaknesses and may, in fact, become the more accomplished gymnast in this scenario.</div>
<div>Furthermore, even if a child does have tremendous natural talent, those kids need to be coached carefully because at the first sign of progress not being linear and meteoric,  they will often be in my office proclaiming that they “want to quit  because they are not making any progress.” Ironic, no?</div>
<div><strong>Myth: I can skip training for several weeks and pick back up where I left off when I get back to the gym.</strong></div>
<div><strong>Reality: HA!</strong>  In gymnastics we use the rule of thumb for younger kids one half of the time they were gone to return to where they were before they left.  For older, more advanced kids the time is LONGER—typically day for day to simply return to where you were prior to the break in training.  Other sports probably have shorter time frames (gymnastics is a particularly difficult sport to pick up, put down and pick up again) but it will only lead to frustration to think that there won’t be a period of time where “progress” is repeating the progress that lead up to the weeks off.</div>
<div>So does that mean never take a vacation?  Of course not.  But to take off for several weeks and to expect to see immediate progress is unrealistic to say the least.</div>
<div>Occasionally, despite all of my reasoning, the parents and the child remain unconvinced and still think that due to lack of progress it is time to hang up the grips.  So, if the athlete still wants to quit, I explain the difference between <a href="http://jaggym.wordpress.com/2010/12/31/anne-josephson-%E2%80%93-quitting-vs-ending/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">quitting and ending</a> and we make a plan.</div>
<div>But now I will be adding another little tool to my bad of tricks.  David Benzel , who runs a wonderful program called <a href="http://growingchampionsforlife.com/" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Growing Champions for Life</a> and often says really, really smart things that I wish I had said, suggests that the athlete write out two versions of their sports story.  In the first, describe how things would be by leaving the sport.  The second version should describe how things could turn out if she persevered, worked harder, made a break through and emerged successful despite the plateau.</div>
<div>I’ll keep you posted on how that works out.</div>
<div>Bottom line: Progress is not linear, takes longer as you get better at the sport, should not be defined in terms of others’ success, takes time and needs sustained effort to maintain and advance. Like a carrot that grows under the soil, you cannot always see the progress of the carrot’s growth until one day it pokes through the dirt.</div>
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		<title>Does your child have a lot of energy? We got the answer- Candyland Kids Night Out &#8211; This Saturday-Feb. 25</title>
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		<title>Let Them Run! by Ann Josephson of JAG Gymnastics</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[American children are getting fatter and fatter.  Current statistics tell us that over one-third of American kids are overweight or obese.  And the numbers continue to climb each year. Recent articles in Time magazine highlighted why both school age and preschool aged children are getting heavier—a lack of exercise. As standardized test scores in the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>American children are getting fatter and fatter.  Current <a href="http://kidshealth.org/parent/general/body/overweight_obesity.html">statistics</a> tell us that over one-third of American kids are overweight or obese.  And the numbers continue to climb each year.</p>
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<p>Recent articles in Time magazine highlighted why both <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2012/01/03/let-the-kids-play-theyll-do-better-in-school/#ixzz1jad3R68E">school age</a> and <a href="http://healthland.time.com/2012/01/04/why-kids-arent-exercising-in-day-care/#ixzz1jadtRGov">preschool aged</a> children are getting heavier—a lack of exercise.</p>
<p>As standardized test scores in the US continue to decline, some administrators and parents believe that cutting physical education in favor of increased classroom instructional time is a solution to boost academic performance.  In fact, a recent <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/23/texas-school-sports-ban-p_n_1224155.html">article</a> in the Huffington Post described a Texas school district that cut all athletic programming in an “effort to boost student performance.”</p>
<p>But the rationale to eliminate sports and physical education from the curriculum may have two unintended consequences: an increase in obesity and a decrease in academic performance.</p>
<p>In a recent study reported in the <em>Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine </em>it was found that physical activity is associated with better academic performance, as measured by higher GPAs and better scores on standardized tests.</p>
<p>In fact, the study showed a direct correlation between the amount of physical activity and academic achievement.  The more physical activity the children had, the higher their scores in school, particularly in the basic subjects of math, English and reading.</p>
<p>Being more active, according to the study, may improve blood flow to the brain, which provides more oxygen to cells involved in learning and attention. Exercise also boosts levels of certain hormones that can improve mood and fight stress, both of which can also provide a better learning environment for children.</p>
<p>“Children learn by participating in sports, learning rules, and learning to act appropriately in a social environment,” say Amika Singh, the lead research scientist on the study. “And that translates into the classroom, where children who are physically active may adhere better to classroom rules and get along better with teachers and classmates. So academic performance may just be the short term benefit of exercise; there are a whole range of social and behavioral benefits that go beyond grades as well.”</p>
<p>The problem is not just limited to school-aged kids.  Preschoolers are also at increased risk for obesity because of their lack of physical activity.  Approximately 75% of US preschoolers spend the majority of their day in childcare centers.  In these centers, studies show what the kids are not moving for 70% to 83% of their hours there—with <strong>only 2% to 3% of their time being engaged in physical activity</strong>.</p>
<p>Concerned with these statistics, Dr. Kristen Copeland, a pediatrician at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center, conducted a series of focus groups with 49 child care providers in the area to determine the reasons why preschoolers in child care get so little exercise.  The results, which were recently published in the journal <em>Pediatrics</em>, showed three primary reasons: concerns about the children injuring themselves while at play, financial constraints that limited some centers’ ability to purchase playground equipment, and a growing emphasis on academic learning over unstructured physical play time.</p>
<p>Yet, encouraging kids to be physically active from younger ages helps them to learn better and increases their social skills. Furthermore, rather than trying to convince sedentary older kids to start exercising, it is likely considerably more effective to establish exercise as a good habit at an early age. “Children develop mastery of gross motor skills — climbing, throwing and catching ball, skipping and learning to control their body — on their own at an early age, and these skills aren’t taught in school,” says Copeland. “And children who are most comfortable with these skills show more self confidence and have better peer relationships than children who don’t.”</p>
<p>So what is a parent to do?  First, make sure that your children are getting sufficient exercise in their school environment.  Challenge the decrease in recess and physical education.  Make sure that the playground is adequate and that the kids are permitted to run.  (Yes, there are schools that have banned running on the playground for fear that kids will hurt themselves.  Really.  It’s true.  I can’t make this stuff up.)  Encourage your kids to be active at home.  Limit screen time. Take family walks.  Play games that involve chasing and running.  Finally, bring your kids to Patti&#8217;s All-American.  We will make sure that they get a great workout, have a blast and develop the foundations for a lifetime of fitness!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Robin Arvanitis (Dance Manager) began dancing at the age of three.  She took locally until she was eight years old, and then continued training at Birmingham Southern College, Chicago City Ballet, Masi Ballet, Ruth Page, Ellis DuBoulay, and Lou Contes.  She was accepted at Joffrey Ballet of New York City in 1989, but she decided [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://pattisallamerican.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Robin-Arvanitis.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-5519" title="Robin Arvanitis" src="http://pattisallamerican.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Robin-Arvanitis.jpg" alt="" width="200" height="200" /></a><strong>Robin Arvanitis </strong>(Dance Manager) began dancing at the age of three.  She took locally until she was eight years old, and then continued training at Birmingham Southern College, Chicago City Ballet, Masi Ballet, Ruth Page, Ellis DuBoulay, and Lou Contes.  She was accepted at Joffrey Ballet of New York City in 1989, but she decided to begin a teaching career instead.  Robin had her own studio until the spring of 1998 when she joined the staff at Patti’s All-American.  Robin has staged eighteen recitals, three professional Nutcrackers, four musicals, dance engagements from 1998-2004 at Great America, and numerous parades.  Many of her students have gone on to dance at the University of Iowa, Butler, Northern Illinois, Barat College, and the Joffery Ballet of New York, and Chicago Ballet. Some of her students have performed in Showboat, the Arie Crown Nutcracker, and the Great America Review. Robin is certified in American Red Cross First Aid and CPR.  She also runs the Tri-Town Pop Warner Dance &amp; Cheer which has won four National Dance Titles.  Robin resides in Schererville, with her husband, Tim, and their two children, Riley and Renn.</p>
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		<title>Ten Words to Eliminate from A Gymnast’s (or Anyone’s) Vocabulary by Anne Josephson of JAG Gymnastics</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I am in charge of the world (I still can’t believe that hasn’t happened…wonder what the hold up is…?), I will eliminate the following words from my gymnasts’ vocabulary.  In the meantime, I share it with all of you so that you may get a head start on eradicating these words and the concepts [...]]]></description>
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<div>When I am in charge of the world (I still can’t believe that hasn’t happened…wonder what the hold up is…?), I will eliminate the following words from my gymnasts’ vocabulary.  In the meantime, I share it with all of you so that you may get a head start on eradicating these words and the concepts behind them from your lives.</div>
<div>1. <strong>Can’t</strong>—Can’t means won’t.  There are very few things one “can’t” do.  Sure you “can’t” not breath for more than a few minutes or “can’t” go without water for more than a few days.   But if you “can’t” do a back handspring, it’s because you “haven’t learned it yet.”  So say that.  Or, if you don’t want to do a back handspring, say that.  Or, if something is preventing you from doing it (like an injury or  a fear), say that.  But please do not say, “Can’t.”  It’s like fingers on a blackboard for any coach to hear that word come out of their athletes’ mouths.</div>
<div>2. <strong>Should</strong>—Should implies (usually a negative) judgment of someone (usually either your coach or parent) of how you might choose to go about your training.  It transfers the responsibility from you to some other force.  You need to be responsible for your training.  “I should” go to practice is ripe with lack of commitment.  “I should” do cardio outside of the gym is not useful in making you any better.  Instead, commit.  “I am,”  “I will,” or “I want” are each superior to “I should.”  Or don’t commit: “I am not going to,” “I choose not to” or “I’d rather die than” are also viable (albeit less likely to get you to your goal) choices.  This is your ride, my gymnasts.  You are at the wheel of this car.  It is up to you to drive it.</div>
<div>3. <strong>Try</strong>—This one is a bit complicated because “try” is not an entirely bad word.   When “try” is really “I am going to give it my best effort no matter what,” it isn’t a terrible concept.  However, “try” has been misused for so long that it needs to go.  “Trying” gives a cop out for actually “doing.”  It is sort of a weak, wimpy word that implies that the athlete is going to flirt with doing the assignment or skill.  It is especially an offensive term when “trying” is just code for “don’t hold me accountable for failing.”  Sometimes you will do and you will fail and that is okay.</div>
<div>4. <strong>Suck</strong>—No, you don’t “suck”.  Maybe you didn’t work to your potential.  Maybe you didn’t achieve your goal.  Maybe you didn’t qualify for the championship meet.  Maybe you had a bad rotation, a bad day, a bad meet or even a bad season.  But there is no way that you suck.  There are less than 5% of the kids in the world who can do what you do, that is true for the most basic gymnast, and you don’t suck.  (Note to statistics Nazis: I made up that 5% statistic.  I don’t really know how many kids can do a better walkover, handspring or giant than any one of my athletes, but less than 5% seemed like a good guess.)</div>
<div>5. <strong>Have to</strong>—Yes, I can count and I realize that “have to” is in fact two words.  Here is the danger of “have to”: it eliminates ability to make a choice.  A close cousin to “can’t,” there is very little in life that we “have to” do.  Breathe.  Eat and drink enough to stay alive.  But really cannot think of anything else.  We choose to do all sorts of things and that is a great thing.   So, you don’t “have to” come to practice, you choose to in order to improve.  You don’t “have to” do conditioning, but you choose to in order to honor your coaches wishes and in order to get stronger so you can progress in the gym.   You don’t “have to” listen to your parents, but you probably won’t be thrilled with the results if you don’t, so you choose to.</div>
<div>6.  <strong>Fat</strong>—I hate the word and want it out, now.  “Fat” makes people feel badly about themselves, hopeless and does little else.  In the case of a gymnast, typically “fat” means something so entirely out of whack that any “normal” person would scratch their head in disbelief.  A 5 foot tall growing girl who weights 100 pounds is not “fat,” yet I have had enough girls cry in my office over being “fat” to know that there are plenty out there who think that this is true.  If as gymnast you are lacking the level of fitness that is essential to being a high level athlete, that does not mean you are “fat.”   Instead, look at ways to increase your fitness by eating healthier and getting in more cardio.  But drop the “f” work, please.</div>
<div>7. <strong>Loser</strong>—No kid who commits to this sport and masters even the most basic level of gymnastics can consider herself a “loser” no matter what the meet results might be.  Yes, in competition there will be people with higher scores and lower scores, but not a single one is a loser.  Maybe this sounds Pollyannaish, but I don’t care.  You get out there on a 4 inch wide beam in essentially a bathing suit and flip…not a chance these kids are “losers.”</div>
<div>8. <strong>Quit</strong>—Sometimes the word “quit” is a positive one—like “I quit smoking” or “I quit throwing rocks at my brother.”  But difference between quitting gymnastics and ending gymnastics is huge.  (See the <a href="https://jaggym.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=470&amp;action=edit" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Quitting vs. Ending</a> blog written by yours truly)  It pains me when I see my former gymnasts and they refer to having “quit gymnastics” when in fact they simply retired, ended or moved on to another sport.  That is not quitting!  Quitting is giving up in the middle of something and these athletes are not quitters.</div>
<div>9. <strong>Impossible&#8211;</strong>Impossible shuts it all down.  There is no point in communicating further to try to solve a problem or brainstorm various solutions once a situation is deemed “impossible.”  Difficult?  Yes.  Hard?  Yep.  Impossible? No.  A close concept to impossible is “never.”  “Never” can go right along with “impossible.”  “Not yet,” “Not sure how to do this,” “I need help” or “This is challenging for me” are healthier choices.</div>
<div>10.  <strong>I’m scared</strong>&#8211;(I know, again with the two words.) Feeling fear is ok and is a normal part of the life and gymnastics.  We cannot cure what is normal.  But instead of saying “I’m scared” which describes the situation as if there is a permanent character trait (Like “I’m Anne” or “I have blue eyes.”), replace it with “I feel afraid.”  Feelings come and go.  Feelings give us information, but are not always telling the truth.  And, feelings are not a permanent part of who we are, and therefore we can work through them or at least around them.  You are not your fear and your fear is not going to dictate who you are.  Maybe it is a game of semantics, but it is an important game.  So there.  And remember, I am in charge of the world when this list goes into full effect, so you should really listen.</div>
<div>What about you: if you could eliminate a word from your child’s, student’s or athlete’s vocabulary, what would you choose?</div>
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